Actions don’t always speak louder than words. If this is your love
language, unsolicited compliments mean the world to you. Hearing the
words, “I love you,” are important—hearing the reasons behind that love
sends your spirits skyward. Insults can leave you shattered and are not
easily forgotten.
QUALITY TIME
In the vernacular of Quality Time, nothing says, “I love you,” like
full, undivided attention. Being there for this type of person is
critical, but really being there—with the TV off, fork and knife down,
and all chores and tasks on standby—makes your significant other feel
truly special and loved. Distractions, postponed dates, or the failure
to listen can be especially hurtful.
RECEIVING GIFTS
Don’t mistake this love language for materialism; the receiver of gifts
thrives on the love, thoughtfulness, and effort behind the gift. If you
speak this language, the perfect gift or gesture shows that you are
known, you are cared for, and you are prized above whatever was
sacrificed to bring the gift to you. A missed birthday, anniversary, or a
hasty, thoughtless gift would be disastrous—so would the absence of
everyday gestures.
ACTS OF SERVICE
Can vacuuming the floors really be an expression of love? Absolutely!
Anything you do to ease the burden of responsibilities weighing on an
“Acts of Service” person will speak volumes. The words he or she most
want to hear: “Let me do that for you.” Laziness, broken commitments,
and making more work for them tell speakers of this language their
feelings don’t matter.
PHYSICAL TOUCH
This language isn’t all about the bedroom. A person whose primary
language is Physical Touch is, not surprisingly, very touchy. Hugs, pats
on the back, holding hands, and thoughtful touches on the arm,
shoulder, or face—they can all be ways to show excitement, concern,
care, and love. Physical presence and accessibility are crucial, while
neglect or abuse can be unforgivable and destructive.
Mine is WORDS OF AFFIRMATION and QUALITY TIME.
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